A small magickal party happened last summer. Fairies, magicians, sorcerers, and witches frolicked in a little forest. This little forest lay hidden in a backyard, which lay behind a cozy cottage, nestled in a suburb in the Denver metro area. Driving down a nearby street, you’d never guess that the beautiful place lay just a breath away. But, if you were invited to our wedding, you would have found your way to it!
You may remember from previous blogs that I spoke of a ‘Pan in the flesh;’ my Obi Wan of how to be friendly and generously loving to others. He and I married last July. We had sought out a place to get hitched, and I wanted a place with lots of trees, with shelter in case it rained, and, for the people who joined us in celebrating, places to park.
The whole wedding planning, from start to finish, was blessed, because of the wonderful people we are so lucky to know. My Sweetie Sweetness’ step mother offered her husband’s brother’s home in the mountains, and we checked it out. It is beautiful and cute! But, as it turned out, it was a little small for the amount of people we wanted to invite.
We explained our dilemma at dinner, with my parents and two friends of theirs. Their friends offered up their home. We didn’t have any inkling at the time that what they truly offered was an enchanted garden, and access to parts of their lovely home.
Both of us had been married before. We’d had traditional and semi-traditional weddings – lots of rules followed simply because that’s the way it’s done. This time, we wanted this wedding to represent us. This wedding was about our love, and sharing our happiness that we were together with our friends and family.
Rather than go into what we didn’t do, I’ll just say what we did: My love and I walked to the middle of a patch of grass encircled by trees. Across a little stream, our friends and family chose their own places, with some comfortable seats reserved for those who had requested them. It was a little drizzly, and we provided a lot of umbrellas or guests brought their own, and some sat on the grass, some in chairs, to watch the ceremony.
Our lovely friend and DJ is also an officiant, and she led our ceremony, and MC’d the events and music. We also had a volunteer ‘town crier’ to announce things that were about to happen. Another set of good friends grilled food. The only presents we wanted was for guests to bring food to share, and we provided meat for the grill and paid for a cake, to be made by my love’s son’s girlfriend.
For our ceremony, our friend said some touching words, and we read song lyrics that we had kept secret from each other until the event. This was my love’s idea. The first set represented our lives before each other, the next set represented our time together, and the last set represented our future together. Next, we said our vows, which we had decided on together, the words of which are based on relationship gurus’ advice.
Then everyone ‘ate, drank and made merry.’ We had rented tables for people to sit, or people could mill around. My love’s sister took photos, and many more photos were shared digitally by guests. Another friend brought her drone that took a video of everyone (fantastic!). After eating, we asked for people to make toasts. We wanted only positivity in the toasts, and had asked a few to prepare some toasts to start it off, and then anyone who wanted could come up and share a memory or something positive about our marriage.
At the end of the toasting, my love’s step mom spoke a powerful blessing over our marriage, which was very beautiful. Then there was dancing, and cake cutting, chatting, and merriment.
Friends had volunteered to help set up and tear down, and they were so great. They helped us have a worry free day! My love and I had a chance to do a lot of setting up the day before, so as the volunteers came before our wedding started, we had them set up signs to lead people, and decorate. Then, tear down was really fantastic and amazing: no piece of trash was left behind. Every little bit was picked up.
Our lovely hosts enjoyed our wedding as well, putting bubbles in the water fountain, and staying with us as we picked up and chatted with guests that remained. Our lovely friend the DJ and officiant, my love and I came back the next day to pile all the tables and chairs and get the DJ equipment.
Because everyone who attended is so lovely, and generous, and kind, our wedding was beautiful. The people who attended have souls just as beautiful as the little house and scenery were (as well as those who wanted to, but couldn’t attend, and were there in spirit). Our parents, siblings, families and friends, and the hosts, are what made our wedding spectacular. (Some attendees even travelled from afar!) That, and the willingness of so many of them to dress up in costume just ‘made’ the event! Just our style (we love dressing up in costumes).
It has now been 6 months since we got married, and we are as happy as ever, most days. We are human after all, and not really fae! But our commitment to ‘validity, fidelity, ecstacy’ (the words engraved in our rings), our vows, to rule out any negativity, and our commitment to each other as a team, are what makes our relationship relatively stress free.
Here’s to a smooth ride with my love to the end of our days (steadfast love even if life gives us bumps). So mote it be.