I have met, possibly, the best match in a lover, ever, for me. In fact, we had our first date the day I posted the last blog. (You know, the one in which I was going on about how I’m just going to chill out on relationships for a while?)
Well, that’s funny. I’m way deep in a very serious relationship now! After that first date, I thought he was interesting and that it would be fun to see him again. We had our second date the very next day. We went to a park and had a picnic, and ended up kissing under a blanket as it sprinkled. I’m smiling now, remembering how wonderful that was.
Since then, I’ve found out so many awesome things about him, some of which are uncanny signs that appear to point in the direction of ‘You are made for each other.’ So many things about our personalities jive with each other and we really match and fit so well together, that sometimes I’ve felt like I’ve made him up, except that he’s better than what I could have made up.
One of the really cool, uncanny similarities we have is that we are both really into butterflies. If you read some of my past blogs, (or this one, or this one) you’ll be filled in on what I mean. One or two years ago, images of butterflies were popping out at me, around 2-3 images per day, for months on end. The same thing happened for him, but for a shorter time. I now have a tattoo of a blue butterfly on my left shoulder blade and a few other things like barrettes, notebooks, and so on, that have butterfly images on them. He has a lot of butterfly images and actual butterflies (framed) in his home. I’m still seeing butterfly imagery quite often. Just today, I saw these butterflies in the CD sleeve of a Frenchy and the Punk album, and the lyrics next to them are so wonderful. I texted him with this picture, which has now been tweaked for posterity:
Another fun coincidence is a mutual interest in girls and tanks (in a way). A few years ago, I dressed up as Tank Girl for a convention in Denver. I am a huge fan of the original comic books by Hewlett and Martin. He has had a long time interest in tanks, and even designed a tank- I’m not sure how in depth his design is, if it’s a working tank or more of an art form for him (I would guess: both). He wrote a fictional story that he wants to turn into a comic book about women in tanks! How cool is that!
We match in so many ways. I’ve owned guns before and shot them only a few times (not any more- the interest didn’t really go away, but the money to buy them did; I pawned the ones I had, about twenty years ago), and he owns guns and is into guns, a bit. We’re both into Science Fiction. I have all the old Avengers TV shows (Diana Rigg and Patrick Macnee) and have watched them and love them, and he’s watched all of them with his daughter. We both like comic books. We’re both artists, though he’s practiced art much more than I have. We both like to write stories. We both like to dance (though I hadn’t been club dancing in a really long time). He took me dancing and it was so much fun!
What else do we have in common… we’re both teachers. Though I’m only tutoring two students right now, and he’s a full time teacher. He teaches high school students Math and Game Design. We’re both computer savvy and graphic arts savvy- though he’s much more so than I am.
We’re both leader types. We’re both generous and like to help other people. We both really like cuddling, touching, kissing, and have high sex drives. (And it’s been wild!) He communicates a lot with me, and we’ve been very frank and open with each other. We’re both polite and considerate people. We both see people as just that, people, and have a wide variety of friends, male, female, transgender. We’re both bisexual. We both don’t mind if the other person finds other people attractive and tells the former person about it. We’re so wild about each other and in love that this doesn’t conflict with what we’ve got going with each other.
We do, of course, differ in a few ways. He likes line dancing (country style dancing), and I’m not into that at all. I’m more into pagan things and think in a pagan way much more than he does. He’s Buddhist, and is open minded about spirituality, which helps us match. But he wouldn’t quite get into the same spiritual things I’m into (as far as I’ve been able to discern). He’s much more outgoing than I am (and I’m more of a friendly introvert). He makes people laugh and glow after he’s talked with them, and I love this about him.
I have been given this wonderful present: a lover who is as excited about me as I am about him, and who is wonderful, beautiful, and unique in his own right. I have other blessings as well: sign language interpreting school is going great, I have what I need, and am blessed with wonderful people in my life.
So. I feel the need to do something special to thank the cosmic mother and father and guardian spirits, and deity, or whoever has helped bring us together. Some kind of sacrifice is probably called for, and I’m going to think about what I can do to create a balance for all the blessings I have been given. I don’t have a lot of money to spend, so I need to think of something I can do or make and it has to be big or require a lot of time. I’ll have to think on that one a bit. (If you have any ideas, it would be fun to read them!) In the meantime, all I have are words coming from a sincerely felt humility. Thank you for all that I have been given! Thank you, thank you, thank you.
Perhaps make an offering of some kind to the four elements…like weave dried flowers together for Earth and fill it with seeds that you can bury to thank the Universe for the cosmic romantic growth in your life, charge water by the full moon or even intentional words taped to the water bottle filled with gratitude to use in a ritual giving thanks, air can be feathers you find or cedar wood bundles for burning and releasing the prayers of thanks to the Universe for Air and then fire can be a special belly dance you perform for the universal audience – fire likes action and passion. Blessed be. I hope the petals of love continue unfurling happily in your life.
That sounds lovely. I may do that plus some kind of volunteering. ❤ thank you so much, my friend.
So happy for you, my dear! You sound just like I did when I met my husband 14 years ago. We owned identical toothbrushes, vaccuums, and the same make, model, and color of car. Lots of funny little things and big things too. But a lot was different, enough to make it interesting.
If you are looking for a project, the Living Earth Lending Library needs books entered into librarythink.org, labeled, and reshelved by Dewey Decimal number. I got through 30 in 90 min and there are 800 to go. It will cost nothing but time, but is a huge job. The books are all Pagan, and there is a giant butterfly sculpture on the eastern wall right there.
I just spent all day there, cleaning and organizing. 9am yesterday till 1am today. Felt so nice to be there.
Hmmm I’ll consider it. We did notice that butterfly (and I have noticed it, before) when we went to Sooj’s concert there. At that time we had been dating only about 4 days. 🙂 Cool to hear about you and your husband!